I have always been a little sceptical of online dating, mostly because I have terrible trust issues and pretty much think that every guy is a potential a-hole.
Besides said trust issues, I am a very curious person, I like to know what’s out there. I’m the girl who sings and dances in the car on her way to and from work, obviously not giving a damn about who’s watching.
Over the past few years, online dating has increasingly become a more widely accepted way of meeting a future partner and today, as many as one in five relationships are believed to begin online.
The reason why it may feel easier to approach someone online is related to how we’ve evolved to read each other’s body language. If you think about how we normally interact, we’re really social creatures and our species has developed over time to be really sensitive to non-verbal cues like facial expressions and voice gestures.
With new dating apps and sites being created faster than we can download them, it can be hard to know where to start. That’s why I have put together a list of the best places to look for women seeking men.
eHarmony. If you are serious about looking for that special thing called love, then this is the site for you. eHarmony takes this online dating game very seriously. They’ve even patented The eHarmony Compatibility Matching System. That’s right. They’ve taken 35 years of research to come up with a Relationship Questionnaire and pride themselves on matching users with people who are actually compatible with them. eHarmony’s membership is more expensive, and going by the many profiles that I browsed and read, the men on there are established and very serious about wanting something real. Look at it this way: anyone who pays more than $200 for membership is obviously looking for something long-term. By paying a high membership rate, the site weeds out fair-weather daters and leaves only those who are serious.
Tinder. I can’t really make a list of the best dating sites without mentioning Tinder. At first, people were drawn to the app for its simplicity – users can swipe left to decline and right to approve a date. If two users swipe the same way? They’re matched and can chat to one other. Now, it seems you can’t go anywhere without meeting couples who got together through the app. The app’s best quality is undoubtedly its amount of users – there are 50 million active ones, so it’s unlikely you’ll run out of potential matches. I had the most fun on this app, only because I felt like it was more of a game than a “dating” mission. I am starting to think that most of the guys on Tinder are not real. Do you all just swipe right and never say hello? I thought swiping right meant that you are interested.
Plenty of Fish. This site is free and pretty much has no kind of filter whatsoever. If you are looking for a good time, and don’t really care what the other person is all about, sign up here. This is great if you want free access to a large database of single people. It has a compatibility matching system that includes areas such as self-confidence, openness and family. The paid version of POF has a feature called the “Who’s Seen Me” button that allows you to see who has viewed your profile. Many female users turn this function off because some male users take a “view” to mean that the woman is interested and initiate communication. However, the function becomes useful In the event that two users are acting as “secret admirers,” i.e. frequently viewing each other’s profile without any communication. Not to say that all of them are uneducated, but if you don’t mind spelling and grammatical errors in a profile, then this may be the place for you. Or, if you are just looking for a quick fix, this works.
Chemistry.com With the surge of dating apps taking over the online dating scene, Chemistry.com is best for older singles looking for pragmatic compatibility and some online dating guidance. Being one of the original modern-day dating sites, Chemistry offers a traditional, mainstream-dating platform that is both easy to use and ripe with members. Chemistry.com is extremely easy to navigate, making it a great starting point for singles using online dating for the first time. It is free to create a profile, but payment is required to start messaging.
OkCupid. OkCupid seems to resonate with a younger crowd, especially with its newly implemented app. That said, it’s probably best for younger singles that are open to the hit and quit it mentality. I really like that OkCupid offers a free desktop site and app. Unlike most desktop sites or apps, OKC makes it easy to transition from phone to desktop to keep the conversation going. While it works perfectly well at a base level, you do have to pay additional fees if you want to be an ‘A-list” member. A-list perks include no ads, advanced searches such as filtering by body type, preferential placement in search results, and the ability to browse invisibly (creepy?).
There is certainly no excuse to single much longer after this rad list of online dating sites. Still, freaking out to put yourself out there on the Internet? Online dating has many pros:
- You can meet people outside of your area and find people with similar interests. You’ll meet more people, so you can learn what you’re truly looking for in bae.
- Usually today relationships start online. Whether it’s on Social media, Facebook, Twitter, a mobile app, or a traditional online dating site, there are a lot of success stories about finding love online.
- It’s efficient and available 24-hours a day.
Look at it this way: the online world is so much larger and more spacious than the worlds each of us inhabits each day. Appreciate that space, and realize how freeing it is. There are beautiful, open, conscious individuals everywhere, looking for love just like you are.